In Episode 5 of Good Dads’ The Intentional Dad podcast, hosts J. Fotsch and Jason Hynson sit down with Dyllan Dale to tackle two of the most persistent challenges facing families today: peer pressure and self-esteem. Through honest reflection and hard-earned wisdom, this conversation reminds dads that being intentional isn’t just about showing up—it’s about showing up with empathy, consistency and a willingness to have the tough talks.
This week on the blog, we’re summarizing our favorite takeaways from this wide-ranging conversation. And don’t forget to tune into the latest episode of The Intentional Dad!
The Real Work of Intentional Parenting
The episode opens with a frank look at what it means to be an “intentional dad.” Jason shares how family decisions often require difficult conversations that may disappoint a child but uphold long-term values. Dyllan echoes this with stories from his own life, including his journey out of addiction and the challenge of co-parenting children across different households. Whether it’s saying no to a new sport or resisting the cultural pressure to buy every new gadget, the message is clear: Intentional fatherhood takes courage, clarity and compassion.
Peer Pressure, Comparison and the Cultural Weight of “More”
From phones to dirt bikes, the pressure to “keep up” starts early—and it doesn’t just affect kids. Dyllan speaks candidly about how easy it is to internalize the message that good dads provide everything. But, he says, “sometimes the most loving thing you can do is say no.” Jason reflects on how their family sets boundaries by sticking to shared goals—like choosing activities that include multiple kids and steering away from one-off indulgences.
“You’re Going to Grow Up and Be Your Own Person”
Dyllan also shares how his past mistakes occasionally make him question his parenting. He discusses the fear of being seen as the father he used to be and the mental hurdles he’s had to overcome to stay focused on the present. His guiding light? “I always tell (my children): It’s okay to be different. You’re going to grow up and be your own person.” That reassurance paired with the resolve to keep showing up forms the bedrock of his parenting style.
Intentional Actions Not Just Good Intentions
Throughout the episode, the hosts emphasize that peer pressure isn’t something to solve—it’s something to walk through with your child. Sometimes that means drawing firm lines and sticking to boundaries. Sometimes it means listening at midnight when your kid needs to talk. And sometimes it just means reminding them, “I love you. I’m with you. You’re not alone.”
Final Takeaways for Dads
Being intentional as a father doesn’t mean having all the answers—it means having the courage to show up, the humility to listen and the strength to say no when it matters most. Peer pressure and self-esteem may be inevitable but with presence and purpose, dads can help their children navigate these challenges with resilience and confidence.
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